but, I’ve already tried therapy…Counseling at the Crossroads…

To be at a Crossroads is to recognize choice is a privilege & it’s an opportunity to be courageous & aline with your truth. A Crossroads is a time to practice agency!

A Crossroads is not a rare thing…they are everywhere, they appear in every minute of every day. They come from both the outside & they exist in your own thinking.

living in the in-between…

Right now you are in the “in-between,” which contains all possibilities. In this space you may ask yourself if you really need help, if it’s really that bad, etc.

Maybe you’ve already tried therapy & it was just okay or felt bad or damaging…

Whatever choices you make, I invite you to be open to ALL that is possible & that you have AGENCY…you have a say in what happens next.

why engage in therapy…

  • you don’t want fear to run your life

  • you want to feel your life is worth living

  • you don’t want to feel stuck any longer

  • you want to feel more “you”

  • you want more fulfillment in your relationships

  • you want to express your truth

  • you need support integrating what has happened to you

  • you don’t want to repeat the same patterns again & again

  • you want to feel peace

  • you want to feel joy

  • you don’t want the weight of the world on your shoulders

  • you want more trust in yourself

  • you want to know you are connected & supported

  • you want to be more kind to yourself

  • you want to feel free

is going to therapy an indulgence?

It’s not for me to say what is a luxury.

What I believe is that in times of strife & dissolution, it is those who are conscientious, creative & grounded who are poised to lead & inspire others toward what is valuable.

Humanity is at an intense threshold…how do you remember your human-ness & your empathy?

Whatever support you choose…make it substantial…make it count!

but, I’ve already tried therapy…

I see many clients with this story. Often this is the case because they did not see a neurodivergent therapist & were mis-diagnosed, misunderstood & taken down a therapy path that was ill-informed.

I can’t guarantee a “good” experience since therapy is often about facing our fears, processing trauma, etc…but, I do love my work & I care deeply about the impact of therapy on my clients.

You tried therapy & had a bad experience…

This is a good portion of the clients I work with…they’ve seen a therapist who is pretty good, but maybe doesn’t have enough experience or advanced training in modalities that would help them integrate or process with more depth.

Your tried therapy & it was helpful…to a point…

You went to a few therapy sessions, got uncomfortable & now you’re not sure if it would have helped or not…

Sometimes starting therapy takes a couple of tries. It’s okay to not be really “ready.” Don’t let one or two “false starts” keep you from trying again.

You look into therapy, read about therapy & hear others talk about their experiences, but have never tried it for yourself…even though you sort of “feel” like you have because of all of the opinions out there…

This is an all-too-common story…the truth is that starting therapy is a risk…a risk that it might not be a good fit. But, if you can find a good-enough fit & a therapist who offers services that appeal to you…stop guessing if it will or will not be helpful & give it a try.

This sort of falls into the category of hearing about something so much, you feel like you don’t have to experience it yourself or you can do it yourself.

I, personally, have fallen into this trap many times & I understand the ANALYSIS PARALYSIS of it. Deep breath, take a chance…

OTHER OPTIONS INSTEAD OF THERAPY…

consultation/coaching

In addition to Psychotherapy, Consultation & Coaching are available…specialties include:

  • improving focus

  • shifting patterns of burnout

  • embodiment practice curation

  • meditation practice curation

  • contemplative practice curation

  • defining your values

  • no more excuses…making changes

Practices for Being Human…

  • When we dance, sing & share stories it creates connection, joy & feelings of aliveness. These are practices of attunement & syncing.

  • These skills are under serious threat…already our critical thinking skills are being diminished.

    Protect your brain, exercise your mind.

  • Nature is better than any anti-depressant…less expensive…& as they say “love your Mother Earth.”

  • Whatever it is…something spiritual, something conceptual (Love, for example)….god, the Earth, the universal one-ness.

    Have you defined your values? Are they values you will feel were worthwhile as you lay dying?

  • We need silence…we need to know what our minds are doing.

    Silence is magical, rare & worth protecting.

    Start small…simply allow yourself to be in silence while taking your daily bath or shower…don’t listen to anything while driving…be in the silence.

  • There is always joy to be found in the body…even for those of us who are very sensitive.

    What does your animal body love?

“And now I understand something so frightening and wonderful- how the mind clings to the road it knows, rushing through crossroads, sticking like lint to the familiar."

”You do not have to be good./ You do not have to walk on your knees/ for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting./ You only have to let the soft animal of your body/ love what it loves.”

-Mary Oliver